Philosophers, spiritual leaders, our parents, mentors, friends and even our children will advise you on what is right and what is wrong about a given situation.
How do you decide on what’s right? Do you go by what others tell you? Or maybe what you read in a book? What do you do if the advice given to you is conflicting?
Our brains are designed by evolution to process information in a specific way. This processing is then influence by the genes we inherit, our environment, our culture, our friends, parents and peers.
It is also influenced by how we feel when we are trying to decide. Our brain doesn’t allow us to see things as they really are; it only gives representation of what the reality is outside our heads.
It is only our awareness of our experience we can say, “it is what it is.” Our experience is our own; it is special and unique to us.
However, it doesn’t mean our experience will lead us to make the “best” decision. Remember it is colored by so many factors and even by our likes and dislikes. We tend to give more importance to qualities we like than those we don’t like. We value what we like, but what we like is not always “wholesome and good.”
In the final analysis its doesn’t really matter what the absolute truth is before we make our final decision; it only matters that we try to see what others see and think, while keeping in mind they too want to thrive in life.
We only see from where we stand, so should we try standing in lots of different places to get the whole picture? I leave it to you,to decide.