In the past I wrote about vulnerability. I said vulnerability is the only authentic state. Being vulnerable means being open for wounding, but also for pleasure. Being open to the wounds of life means also being open to the bounty and beauty. I asked not to mask or deny your vulnerability because its our greatest asset. Be vulnerable, I said: quake and shake in your boots with it because the new goodness that comes to you, in the form of people, situations, and things can only come to you when you are vulnerable. Now, this of course is on the assumption that life wounding does not leave you with grievous wound from which you cannot recover. One may wonder if there is a healthy balance between vulnerability and resilience so that a person can recover from their wounds. All the wounded people I have come across have recovered either completely or partially. Those that are resilient recover completely and those who are not may have difficulty.
A wise man once said, “The best way to come to terms with a terrible past is to get a really good future out of it.” Again the wise man is assuming the person has enough resilience to overcome the terrible past.
So the question is how does one get resilient. I have suggested in my previous posts that the individual who had a happy loving childhood and who’s parents provided the right kind of environment are more “psychologically balances” and this would contribute to them being resilient. But all is not lost if you had a terrible childhood. One can learn to be more resilient. The past doesn’t have to ruin or limit our future. We don’t want to have thought that say “ I can never be happy because this happened in my past.”
What can we do to become resilient? Some very exciting research has emerged from the study of mindfulness meditation. It seems with meditation practice there is an electrical change in brain function which cultivates an “ approach state” in which people move toward, rather than away from a challenging external situation or internal mental function such as a thought, feeling, or memory. Naturally, such an approach state can be seen as the neural basis for resilience.
Studies have also shown that patients with meditation practice feel an internal sense of stability and clarity. This is important because resilient people are very good at dealing with novelty. When they feel stuck or come across a new difficulty in their path they don’t run away from it.but face it head on, the sense of the stability and clarity they cultivate through meditation becomes very handy in those situations. If someone is unable to deal with a new situations and keeps finding good excuses not to tackle it, then they will get stuck in the pattern of ineffectuality i.e. they keep repeating the same behaviour and hoping for a different result. They maybe too fearful to try something new; they maybe putting their fear ahead of solving the problem they are faced with. Not solving the problem keeps one in the comfortable zone of what we already know and this keeps one stuck because what we know has been ineffectual and therefore continues to keep one stuck. One needs to try something new.
Meditation has also been shown to boost the immune system. So there is defence and resilience at the cellular level too, against infections and damage done to the body by the stress hormones. Having a healthy body also will provide sense of resilience.
Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit.
The Mindfulness Revolution: edited by Barry Boyce – chapter by Daniel Siegel, the proven benefits of mindfulness.
- Mindfulness is the single most important foundation of Health. (drchana.com)
- Resilience. (jamesdez.wordpress.com)
- Improving Resilience (healthymemory.wordpress.com)
- Resiliency During Early Years Can Protect Against Later Alcohol/Drug Use (medicalnewstoday.com)
- Maintenance routine for heart, head & body (bodymindsol.com)
- 3 Ways to Boost Your Work Resilience (money.usnews.com)
- In the Midst of Adversity – Resilience (secondchancetolive.wordpress.com)
- Resiliency and Tenacity (bankstreetcollege.wordpress.com)
- Vulnerability Is A Birthplace Of Joy, Creativity, Belonging And Love. (drchana.com)