Sexual Love


Sex is such a loaded word. It has different meaning for almost everyone. In modern time sex sadly is regarded as a trivial act; not long ago a women in her late thirties told me she was sleeping with someone so she could get to know him, that statement took me by surprise that I didn’t know what to say to her. Unfortunately the modern notion of sex ignores what the ancients recognized; that sex is not an activity in isolation from our thought, what we feel , what we do or what we value in rest of our  lives.They regarded it as a spiritual and a sacred act. George Leonard reminds us that today what we need to do is ” reconnect the bedroom with the rest of our lives, with society, and nature, and perhaps with the stars. We need to realize that the way we make love influences the way  we make our world, and vice versa. We need to appreciate the connection between the erotic and the creative. We need, more than anything else to reawaken to the almost endless, half forgotten, life transforming powers of full-bodied, fully committed erotic love.”

Sex is a powerful force, like the life-force itself. It brings lovers together, serves as an expression of love, creates life, and fulfills our longing for unity and wholeness. We engage in sex not only for physical release, but to merge with the beloved in a state of ecstatic spiritual union. The sexual act of union is highly spiritual but unfortunately this image has been tainted by our popular culture of trivialities. Mystics of the past have used images of sexual love to describe their deepest spiritual ecstasy; they recognized sexual love to be deeply spiritual.

D.H Lawrence uses act of sexual union to explain what is the beloved. ” She is that which I am not. In the act of love, I am pure male, and she is pure female. She is she, and I am I, and clasped together with her, I know how perfectly she is not me, how perfectly I am not her, how utterly we are two, the light and the darkness , and how infinitely and eternally not to be comprehended by either of us is the surpassing One we make.”

Alan Watts in his classic Nature , Man, and Women explains, that in the hight of sexual love we see the beloved as the divine. He writes……..”one of the most total experiences of relationship to the other of which we are capable, but prejudice and insensitivity have prevented us from seeing that in any other circumstances such delight would be called mystical ecstasy. For what lovers feel for each other in this moment is no other than adoration in its full religious sense, and its climax is almost literally the pouring of their lives into each other. Such adoration, which is due only to God, would indeed be idolatrous, were it not that in that moment love takes away illusion and shows the beloved for what he or she in truth is — not the socially pretended person but the naturally divine.”



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By Rick Fields, with Peggy Taylor, Rex Weyler, and Rick Ingrasci.

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